When it comes to motivation, it can be difficult for any of us to get going, but when you have a child who suffers with ADHD, it can seem even more of a battle.
Motivation doesn’t have to be a struggle, however. Most teens, ADHD or not, will find that if they have a goal in mind that was chosen by them, then they will feel more willing to become motivated.
In this article we shall have a look at some simple ways to get your teenager with ADHD motivated, and that doesn’t necessarily mean buying them the latest Playstation 5 game.
How To Begin Motivating Your Teenager With ADHD
It likely wasn’t really that long ago when you were a teenager. Having the knowledge of once being a teenager will help you to understand exactly the kind of things that they will want.
For example, it comes as no surprise that once you hit your teenage years, you want to be treated like an adult. Afterall, you start to give your own opinions more matter of factly, and it always helps to have them heard and valued.
So, how can you use your own experience to help set goals for your teenager? The goal to get them motivated is to work on getting your teenager to move forward to their adulthood years.
This will not only help them to become more grounded as they grow up, but they will understand the importance of having the motivation now, as a teenager.
Here are a few things to think about when thinking of a teenager’s end goal:
- To have the freedom to make decisions and choices
- To be able to be treated as an adult, rather than a child
- To create new rules and see how they are applied – for example, how they are grounded
- To make sure their own opinions are heard and valued
How To Talk To Your Teenager About The Process
When you first begin to talk to your teenager on setting up a process, you will want them to know that this is solely for their benefit, and to help them accomplish something.
To put it simply, it is to help you both work together in order for your teenager to make their goal a reality. The process that you take is how they will become motivated to do something.
Because you are making it a team effort, your teenager can then understand that these aren’t orders, and are in fact something fun to work on together. They will feel like they are a partner, rather than being asked to do something.
Remember To Ask Some Questions
The end goal needs to be realistic, but also specific. Whilst they might have something in mind, like getting into a particular college, they need to know how they are going to get there.
To help, you should ask questions like what the plan is, what kind of schedule they might have, and when will the process begin?
This makes the teenager have to deal with managing the process in order to get to the goal, rather than having his or her parents do all the important work.
You also need to make sure that they have a plan B. If their first plan doesn’t work, what other ideas do they have?
Your Teen Should Choose The End Goal
Do remember that the end goal isn’t yours, so try and refrain from having your own input. If the fact he or she wants to start up a band scares you, then you could ask if there is anything like a degree that they might be interested in doing with music.
If they have no idea where to start, then ask them what things they like, or what they can see themselves doing as a career. This way, you can look at different college degrees and find out how to have a career in a particular field.
Make Sure It Includes Having Independence
Rewards Are Always Welcome
Write Everything Down With Lists
Final Thoughts On Motivating A Teenager With ADHD
Whilst at first it might seem like a struggle to motivate a teenager with ADHD, it doesn’t have to be. Setting up a goal system and letting them work towards it with rewards will start a great process to get them motivated.
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