SUNDAY, DECEMBER 26, 2010 AT 06:41PM
It’s such an exciting time of year. Everyone seems to be much friendlier and even strangers wish each other happy holidays. We exchange gifts and make hopeful new year’s resolutions. Despite this, we hear about holiday sadness. The teens that we know and work with share their holiday longings and disappointments with us.
1. I miss my dad. I don’t hear from him much since he got re-married.
2. I miss my mom since she got sick, travels so frequently, etc…
3. I miss my family and the way it used to be before the divorce.
4. I miss my older sister who is spending her junior year abroad.
5. I hope that my father remembers to call me. Sometimes he remembers me on holidays. Sometimes, he forgets about me completely.
6. I miss the house and neighborhood that we lived in last year.
7. I wish that the holidays would just end. My grandmother died right before the holidays last year.
Parents: While you are celebrating, we suggest that you don’t forget to acknowledge what your teens may be feeling. Celebration and some longing and and sadness can co-exist. Your teens are not too young to learn that celebration and sadness are not mutually exclusive.
Validate and celebrate!
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This is great…because it is so real!
December 26, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSonya Curtis
Agreed! Thanks for reminding parents these things. It helps when you put it in the context of coming from your teen. I can see my 13 year old saying some of those things.
December 26, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJennifer
Awesome article! Thanks for posting! So much valuable information here! Will make you think! I’ve shared this with my Facebook fans.
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December 26, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKareema Martinez
While many celebrate the gift of family, many are in pain especially at this holiday season. I have many friends who recently lost loved ones or suffer family break-ups and it is a very hard time for them. It is a good reminder to us that many suffer at this time and hopefully we can look for ways to ease their pain. Thanks for your sensitivity.
December 26, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterjanis meredith
This is such great info that hopefully many many parents will read and heed! The Holidays can indeed be a very tough time for so many and especially the teens. Thanks for sharing this info! I’m sharing with my FB friends also!
December 26, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKathy Keefe
Lovely, lovely post. I hear the same things in my practice, too. Thanks for bringing this to the attention of the masses. I’ll share on my facebook page, too!
December 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterWendy @Kidlutions
Like the other commentors before me-love this post too, absolutely will share. Brilliant reminder: “Celebration and some longing and sadness can co-exist. Your teens are not too young to learn that celebration and sadness are not mutually exclusive.”
December 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterElin Stebbins Waldal
TRUE, TRUE, TRUE! While they are developing their independence, they still need the confirmation that parents/family is there to support and value them. This stands true for all children (and most adults). WE long what is absent. Thanks for the reminder!
December 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterLaToniya A Jones
Holidays aren’t always magical. And it’s made even tougher by advertising/media/and people who don’t acknowledge that these times can also be difficult.
December 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterNancy Berk, PhD
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